1) Write my way out. Write even when I don’t want to. Write because I don’t want to
2) Forgive. This wont happen in a year, but time to start. Forgive old mistakes. Forgive people who hurt me years ago. Forgive myself.
3) Trust myself, but don’t use that as a reason to mistrust others.
4) Build post-depression me. Another thing that wont happen in a year, but- hey- maybe it’s time to start laying foundations.
5) Stop making the same mistakes. Stop hurting the same people. Stop falling into the same destructive patterns
6) Try.
Considering Africa is a continent with 54 different countries and over 3000 different ethnic groups, it really shouldn’t surprise people that there is no one set look for an African.
Afar people:
San people:
Amazigh people:
Oromo people:
Hausa people:
Masai people:
Edo people:
Wodaabe people:
These are just 8 of the over 3000 ethnic groups in Africa, and you can already see how beautiful and varied the people of Africa are.
I know how much it hurts. I know you want to lay down here and never get up again. I know it, ‘cause I feel it. I can feel it. And that means somehow, somewhere… you can feel what I’m feeling, too.
Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.
People are always so damned shocked that I say no and don’t change my mind when they plead and coax, even when it’s something small like ‘hey grab some ice cream with us’ or ‘did you see that new embarrassing cringe viral video?’
Right now, I’m sitting at my piano. The same place that I wrote a lot of my new album “Death Of A Bachelor” (out January 15th on the internet or anywhere CDs are sold if you’re someone who leaves their house; ::end of shameless plug::). And, actually, I’m sitting where I wrote the song of the same name. Holiday decorations at my back. Fire burning low. ‘A Muppet Christmas Carol’ playing in the background.
Maybe it’s the holiday spirit or maybe it’s this Disney movie, but I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate you and can’t wait to show you what I’ve been working on.
So here’s a video I shot for the song “Death Of A Bachelor”. Something to hold you over until the album comes out (again, it comes out January 15th, just in case you were wondering or you just forgot).
Anyway, I hope your holiday break is awesome and that you can deal with your family’s awkwardness with grace and patience. I love and appreciate you. Happy new year!
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