catch-the-ghost:

nerdgul:

70slsbn:

70slsbn:

the greatest skill a woman can learn for herself is self reliance

to clarify … so many strong women in my life rely on men. that dependence is dangerous. ladies here are some good ref resources I’ve found helpful on my journey towards self reliance

automobile

• changing coolant
• changing oil
• changing tire
• jumping a car

plumbing

• toilet running
• basement flooding
• replace a faucet
• clogged drain

electrical

• replacing light switches
• blew a fuse
• installing overhead light
• earth vs. neutral vs. live wires

home

• patching drywall
• finding studs

this list is in no way comprehensive feel free to add on

a lot of ‘man things’ are a lot easier than you think they are. especially considering the fact that most of these things when buying the parts come with directions on the packaging that men usually don’t even look at (and often end up doing it wrong because they were taught by fathers who also did not look at the packaging). 

like i recently had to change my car battery and freaked out cause i thought id electrocute myself but turns out new batteries come with directions and its the easiest shit in the world so long as you can lift the damn thing. 

so yeah, ladies dont ever feel like a man is a necessity for life, you can do this shit on your own its easier than you think!  

I have 3 older brothers, as well as my dad, tell me a thousand times that there were things I couldn’t do, and then I found out why.

They refused to look at directions, and struggled for ages over something, pooling opinions on the matter and drawing from Dad’s life experience or “figuring out” a way for the thing to work. And then anytime something weird happens they claim “it has a trick to it” that I just wouldn’t understand because I didn’t go through the work they did to get the thing half-working.

Until I tried it myself. After reading the directions. 10 minutes later I had the thing working perfectly, all the bells and whistles too, and fully understanding how those extra bits work.

But then! Because they did not understand the thing or how it was supposed to work properly they assumed I BROKE IT, and refused to let me use it again. This also furthered their idea that I, the only baby girl, should not handle such Manly Tasks™.

Do you understand? Because the men spend eons trying to rebuild the wheel and failed, they assume there’s no other way better than their own, thus the task must be impossible. They couldn’t even fathom the idea that the instructions, let alone a GIRL CHILD, could ever do it better.